More Stalking

 At no point in time did she curtail her extravagant spending habits. She spent and my son or her mom picked up the tab. She was quite generous with the money of others.

I am purging myself of this by writing. You will note that I am not using names on the off chance that she would discover my new blog that is under a different name. She threatened to sue me for using my granddaughters' names and images on my blog. She tried to get a judge to force me to erase my previous blogs. She failed to get one to order me to do so. I had long since stopped posting pictures and stories about them. I no longer had a relationship with them, so it was a moot point.

One day before I was planning to leave to go to my son's house, I got a text message from her accusing me of trying to kill one of the girls' cats. Since I was in Missouri and the cat was at my son's house in Minnesota, I am pretty sure her accusation was unfounded.

The cat in question refused to use the litter box. This resulted in daily clean-ups that were not pleasant. The children had 4 cats at the time, and she graciously "let" that cat stay with my son so that the girls could see the cat when he had them. Like me, you have probably guessed that she did not was the responsibility and dumped it on my son.

She had decided she no longer wanted the house they bought together and insisted that my son buy her out of the house. He knew that she had inflated the value of the home, but he still wanted to keep the peace. She said she deserved more because she had a townhouse at the time they married and used it for the down payment for the house they shared.

His sisters and I told him that she should take into account all the money she spent that he earned. He did what he thought was right. He earned more money that she did, so .... Now, don't go thinking that she went out and bought an affordable home to live in.

She bought a heavily mortgaged mini mansion with a good bit of land. Oddly enough, this house did not have murals and questionable decor. She left all the furnishings behind and bought everything new for this house. Well, her mom did. It was much larger than the house she left and so was the mortgage. She factored in that exorbitant child support to be able to qualify for the loan.

Since my son was now living in the home, she continued to use that address for the girls to be able to stay in that school district. This was okay with my son because it made life easier for the girls. It also meant that they were sharing custody, which should have been taken into account as far as child support. I know this because I watch Judge Judy!!

It was very convenient for her. When my son didn't have the girls, Other Gramma did. She had retired and would arrive every day at my son's house to be there when they got off the bus at his house. Not her first outing of the day, as she was expected to take them to school every morning that they were not at my son's house.

Her life was great, but she still wanted to punish my son. Having extracted myself from an abusive marriage, I knew how hard it was. My first marriage was not just physically abusive (I had never been punched in the face until I married him). The mental abuse was worse. I already had very low self-esteem and that was reinforced with great regularity. But that is another story.

Of course I could see what she was doing, playing with my child's mind. He would defend her actions to us and refused to hear anything negative about her. My son is nothing if not loyal.